Within each one of us lies an instinct which can be the center of one of the most important parts of many people’s lives, being a parent. Unfortunately many of us have become disconnected with this natural and intuitive part of ourselves. The result is that we raise our children in the same disconnected manner as is common in Western society. The reason why you might want to end this cycle is because this disconnection from Parent to Child, and from the Parent to themselves, creates, and is the source of unfathomable amounts of suffering.

This booklet is a summary of concepts which are based on the Parenting Instinct. While the details of the booklet may not be exactly accurate, or may not be exactly true for you, they serve as a close reminder, and refresher that will point you towards and support you in reclaiming your inner instincts.

“It takes courage to trust your intuition because people around you are not doing it. The benefits of trusting your intuition are; a sense of strength, feeling connected with all of life, feeling peace, and embodying true success.” True success is a feeling of fulfillment and completion that perhaps only you feel. The outer world may not acknowledge it, or may even shun it. In our culture, we typically identify success as someone who as made a lot of money, is famous, or is recognized in the world. In following these practices the joy and fulfillment within you will increase.

This booklet is mostly a collection of information from a variety of sources. The links to the sources are included so that you can further your own research. I have chosen sources which convey ways of life that support our natural instincts.

What is the Parental Instinct?

Many people have an intuitive feeling within ourselves when something is right or wrong in our lives. We have senses of intuition, that direct us into different life situations. We know sometimes what we want to eat, and sometimes we do not know. The Parental Instinct is the idea that there is a sacred and deep part of ourselves, connected to our nervous system, rooted in the DNA structure of our cells, and in the deeper more mammalian parts of our brain, that knows how to raise children. This same instinct is in mammals, our closest relatives on earth, they inherently know how to raise their young in harmony with Nature. Humans posses these same instincts. While all of us have these instincts, few of us live by these instincts. The instincts are a feeling sense of aliveness, they are a cross between a feeling of energy, and a conscious awareness that permeates the mind and body. When aligned with your internal instincts, your cellular structure resonates with the whole of creation. This instinct, helps us align with the cycles of life, the seasons, birth and death, and so on.

Key Signs of the Instinct

The parental instinct is a movement towards unity. It seeks union. It is an energy set in motion which seeks to stay connected and feel unified. It is an energy which seeks and desires to reproduce. It longs for and seeks safety, it knows truth, and protects its children at all costs. The instinct at best can be described as a feeling of connection within your body, that is accessed when the mind is quiet and at rest.

The Loss of the Parental Instinct

Our culture is inundated and is based upon the loss of this instinct. Rather than work with Nature, and her principals, we fight them. We do not walk on and feel the earth beneath our feet, we feel carpet and concrete, and hardwood floors. When we look towards our parents, we do not see this instinct. Many children feel alienated from their parents, or disconnected and so seek to move away from them during adult hood. When we grow up, and seek to have our own children, we may, without thought, habitually follow the old habits of our parents, or we may look outside of ourselves to our culture to decide what to do. What if what our culture does to our children is wrong? We see children screaming, children in day cares not with their mothers at even 6 months old, children strapped into restraints, children being wheeled around in strollers.

Many times children our forced against their will and comfort to be strapped down in car seats and strollers. Parents then make up mental excuses for confining their child instead of feeling the pain and discomfort they are causing their children. There are many things we do not see, women suffering in childbirth, over 150,000 babies are born with birth defects yearly, over 27,000 babies die in their first year of life. As these infants grow, the preference of our culture is to abandon them; we do not feed them milk from their mother but from a factory in a plastic bottle, if they are fed breast milk, it is usually for a very short length of time, we let them cry without consoling them, we send them off to daycare at a young age, as if we would prefer someone else to be their parents.

Many of us where raised in a manner such as this, and after many years of being treated like an object, or as if our feelings where not important, we numb out and we become disconnected to the feeling vibrations in our bodies, we loose our parental instincts, and eventually as adults we raise our children in the same manner as we where raised, or how society suggests.

The Return of the Parental Instinct

For thousands of years, our ancestors have followed a very specific formula for creating and raising children. This formula was not created from the mind or by science, it is a formula encoded in our genetics created by the mysterious force that moves through life. The formula, and formula is not necessarily the best description of it, is a loving way of being connected with life that compels humans to follow their nature to live in a certain peaceful and harmonious way. This way of living, prevents illness, prevents birth complications, and ensures for the highest probability that nature will create a robust and healthy child. This way of being, also shows the child, how to be an adult that lives in harmony with life. An adult that is at peace with themselves, that does no harm to other’s because he loves them. And that seeks to create a feeling of unity everywhere he goes.

The Natural Instinct Will Create Fulfillment & Give Life

That Natural Instinct seeks to fulfill itself. The reason why we are creating this is because there is a great need in the Western world to start raising children humanely. When we raised our daughter, mirroring our parenting after the style of parenting found in many indigenous cultures, we found that we had no support. People mostly, even our families, where in complete disbelief of our child raising habits. Meanwhile, we are in disbelief about how anybody can raise their child the “normal” way. We find it to be a type of unconscious way of living which denies the existence of life. The purpose of this paper is to educate you about how we raised our daughter, and to dispel the common notions of child raising, in an effort to bring a new more loving presence to the process. This not only will DRAMATICALLY change your child, it is the key to finding deep fulfillment as a parent.

These practices, are life giving. Many things written here you will probably never even hear about even from a majority of alternative minded doctors or midwifes. Yet these ideas constitute the re-emergence, for those of you who wish it, of a way of child raising that fosters a deep connection and sense of belonging. In raising children in this manner, we bring people into the world who feel connected to life. When they are connected to life, they care about nature, about other people and the planet. Conversely, in feeling disconnected with life, we can easily inflict pain or violence on others, and on our planet with little regard for life and not even be aware we are doing it. Living in a disconnected manner is an unconscious way of living because nobody is or can be separate from life, and yet many of our child raising practices are done in a manner which assumes a separated existence and a world in which life is paralleled with suffering.

Inner Wisdom and Listening to Your Instincts

What each individual needs is different. All too often we are easily influenced by what the outer world is doing. We do not listen to the quiet, delicate, and strong voice that comes from within. Everything in this booklet, is meant to be a reminder of what that voice might be telling you. Wisdom is like a babbling brook, it flows from within, and all it needs is an ear to listen to it. Take a moment now, a pause and break from your normal stream of thoughts. Feel your breath coming into and out of your nose. Inhale… Exhale… As you take deep breathes, you not only expel toxins that are from the cellular metabolic process, you may also notice a deep sense of peace, tranquility and inner knowing.

This instinct also guides us to healthy nutrition, raising our children consciously, and avoidance of negative practices in the western world. Take this moment as an opportunity to be open to that creative part of yourself that longs for deeper fulfillment in life.

Rami

The article is the introduction to a Natural Parenting booklet I wrote.
You can view it Free here at http://www.yourreturn.org/Articles/Child_Raising2.htm
or download the PDF file Free at http://www.yourreturn.org/Articles/NaturalParenting.pdf

About The Natural Parenting eBook

A variety of complications related to Pregnancy, Conception and Birth are a result not of a genetic dysfunction, but from a build up of toxins in the body and from the previously mentioned deficiency of certain nutritional factors. You will learn key points to how our ancestors naturally raised children, by holding them close to their skins, for their early years of life. Other conditions are discussed from a holistic perspective, they include Infertility, diet after birth, the birth process, midwifes, self care, motherhood, dietary myths, circumcision, vaccinations, morning sickness, natural cleansing, miscarriage, breastfeeding, self care, slings, schooling, fatherhood, and natural healing.

Learn about the cause of disease and how to prevent and heal disease, http://www.yourreturn.org

If you want sex…
Pregnancy is a time for wildly fluctuating hormones - these may make you feel surprisingly horny! If you do, there’s no reason to stop having sex, so long as your pregnancy is normal. However, you may have to make a few changes to your sex life as your term progresses. The missionary position is likely to be difficult or impossible as your bump gets bigger - you could try lying on your side with the belly supported, or go ‘doggie style’. This means you’ve got more freedom to move and can feel more in control. Now is a good time to experiment with different positions and lots of pillows - you may need to prop up your body. Many men find pregnant women particularly erotic - enjoy the attention if your man gets suddenly horny! Also, regular sex can help prepare your pelvic muscles for a smooth birth and your hormones often mean vaginal lubrication is better than ever before.

And if you don’t…
It’s not uncommon for women to go off sex as they start to feel ‘more mother than lover’. Often, towards the later stages of pregnancy sex may become more difficult simply because of the bump getting in the way - you may prefer other forms of intimate touch than full sex. If you’re experiencing discomfort or pain you should let your partner know and try other ways to relax together. Many women enjoy massage as a way to relax and feel close to their partner - just remember that during labor you should avoid highly scented oils or lotions. Touch and physical contact is an essential part of a relationship, and just because you don’t feel like having sex doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy sensual feelings.

Things to check
If yours is a ‘high risk’ pregnancy (check with your doctor or care-giver), you may be advised to avoid sex, particularly in the later stages of pregnancy. This includes a history of premature labor, miscarriage or other complications. Opinion is divided as to whether sex and orgasm can influence labor - again, check with your care-giver if you’re unsure. As far as sex toys go - generally speaking using vibrators externally should present no problem but is best avoided inside the vagina.

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Your child will have numerous teachers over the course of his/her school
career. Effective communication between parents and teachers helps facilitate
success for a child. Below are five useful tips in establishing a valuable
relationship with your child’s teacher.

1. Introduce yourself to your child’s teacher within the first month of
school. Introducing yourself to the teacher will help establish a positive
rapport. It also affirms for your child that you are interested in staying abreast
of his/her time spent at school. It is preferable to do this introduction face to
face, perhaps at “back to school night” or during an open house, but you can
also do so in an email, phone call or written note.

2. Keep in contact with the teacher throughout the school year. It
is common mistake to wait until parent-teacher conferences to discuss any
questions and/or concerns. Since most schools only have these conferences
twice per year, many parents are not privy to their child’s specific achievements
and/or needs within the classroom. Occasional notes, emails or phone
messages are powerful tools in monitoring your child’s progress and do not
require much time for parents or teachers. This continual dialogue not only
informs you and the teacher but your child will benefit greatly from this
partnership.

3. Always make an appointment to speak with your child’s teacher
about important issues. Before and after school are very busy times for
teachers. Trying to “catch” the teacher during these times will not result in a
thoughtful, informative discussion regarding your concerns. Scheduling a 10-
minute conference either over the phone or in person will allow the teacher to
prepare and give your questions his/her full attention.

4. Come prepared to the meeting. Write down any questions or
concerns you may have as they come up. This will ensure nothing is forgotten
and lets the teacher know that you take the meeting seriously. Come prepared
with any ideas that may help facilitate the discussion such as important tidbits
about your child (interests, strengths, areas of need, what s/he responds to,
etc.), information from previous teachers, and relevant details about your
home-life.

5. Work together to find solutions. Be careful not to rely on the
teacher to come up with the entire plan of action. A good teacher wants to
work collaboratively with parents. If you are unhappy with the results of a
conversation or meeting do not hesitate to give your feelings a voice, first to
the teacher and, if necessary, the school Principal.

When parents and teachers work together, they provide the child with the
strong foundation necessary for academic and social success. You may not
“love” every teacher your child has during his/her student career, however, if
you keep the above points in mind, you will be able to communicate effectively
and advocate for your child when necessary. For more educational information
and ideas please visit Child-Works

Shannon Kalisher is a literacy specialist and consultant for Child-Works, LLC.
Child-Works, “the ultimate parent toolbox”, provides consultation in the areas
of education, sleep and behavior. Check out http://www.child-works.com for
literacy activity kits, tutoring services, and small group reading/writing
workshops.

The question of whether allowances are right or wrong, is one that has been argued for many generations. Now it’s your turn, as a parent, to decide whether or not an allowance is the best way to educate your child about financial responsibility. There are many reasons given on why a regular payment of money to a child should or shouldn’t be done - ultimately I believe there is no right answer, it is up to each individual family to decide what is the best option for them. Through many years of working with parents and educators, these are the top seven reasons I keep hearing on the question of why should kids get allowances.

1. They learn to be wise with how they spend their money. It may help to teach them how to prioritise their spending, & learn from an early age what things are a waste of money.

2. They learn how to save money. Having a regular amount of money, may make it easier for them to establish good saving habits, as a certain percentage of the money from each payment can be placed into a savings account/piggy bank. Without an allowance, any money they receive, may simply be spent, with nothing going to savings.

3. They learn how to donate their money. A certain percentage of their money can also be allocated to donations to the needy, hopefully encouraging your child to be more thoughtful of others, & not greedy with their money.

4. They will learn how to budget their money so it lasts between payments. Eventually, most children will learn to be careful how they spend what limited money they have, so they don’t run out of money. This will only happen, if the parent doesn’t give in to the initial whining for more money when the mistake is first made!

5. They can learn to make mistakes with small amounts of money. Kids will learn how to manage their finances responsibly far quicker through being allowed to make mistakes themselves (and suffering the consequences), rather than being told how they should be managing their money by someone else. Parents need to be there to guide their children on how they should spend their money, but not dictate (unless there could be serious consequences from their mistakes).

6. They may stop nagging you for money. The idea is, if they are receiving a regular amount of money, and they have a good understanding of how to budget it then they will never run out of money, so won’t keep pestering you for more. Realistically, it will probably never put a complete end to the nagging for money, but it should reduce it.

7. You may end up forking out less money. If you sit down, and add up how much money you give your child during the week & how much you spend on items for them (e.g. clothing), it may actually work out cheaper to give them an allowance, and make them responsible for a lot of their purchases.

As I mentioned earlier, an allowance isn’t necessarily the best option for every family, but these are some of the reasons why many parents & educators believe an allowance is the only way to go. Some families though, may not have enough room in the family budget to provide their children with a regular payment, or may simply not believe in it for their own personal reasons. Either way you choose, I have seen with my own eyes, children from each side of the fence who have grown up to be exceptional money managers, and likewise children who seem to have no idea. Ultimately, it comes down to how much guidance a child receives from their parents/guardians on money - whether through an allowance or not.

Rachel Incoll has helped show thousands of parents how they can help their children manage money more effectively. Visit Kids Money Tips to find heaps of great tools - printable charts, worksheets, play money, games - new items added regularly.

The method know as 3d ultrasound is used in early pregnancy, it provides 3d pictures of the fetus. Most times these ultrasound images are quickly collected and joined together to make a “4d ultrasound scan”.

Three dimensional scanning works in the same manner to the usual scanning methods except that the ultrasound pulses are sent from many directions. The ultrasound pulses are redirected back and captured and provide information to construct a 3-dimensional image in very much the same way as 3d movies. 3d ultrasound was devised by olaf ramm and stephen smith.

It is important to understand that sonologists around the world always conjured 3d images of anatomy or pathology in their minds while doing 2d scans. However, until recently it was impossible to do this kind of reconstruction on on data using ultasound scanning. The advent of baby scans for the first time allowed us a view into the thinking of a sonologist and hence letting us view the images on the ultrasound machine.

3d/4d ultrasound imaging should utilize ultrasound energy following the same limits as conventional 2d ultrasound to create the 3d images. While there is no information of harm due to 3d ultasound scanning, its use in none medical situations needs to be undertaken with an understanding of the risks that may exist.

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